Holidays are over and the sad reality bites!  But I guess I have to focus on the things that I am thankful of from the past holiday.  One of which is the DVD movie marathons that my brother, Jejo and I did. 

And from the movies that we’ve watched, we loved the movie of Adam Sandler and Don Cheadle “Reign over me”.  After watching it, I started wondering if this was shown here in the Philippines and if so I couldn’t believe that I missed the movie in the big screen and if it wasn’t well the movie goers have missed a very remarkable movie.

The story was about two college roommates, their lives took different paths but they found themselves on common ground.  Alan (Don Cheadle) finally got the chance to see Charlie (Adam Sandler) on the streets of New York.  Charlie lost his family from the tragic 9/11 Terrorists’ Attack in New York.  Suffering from a post-traumatic syndrome, he managed to withdraw himself from everyone and pretended that the family didn’t exist.  Alan upon finding out his friend’s situation, realizing that their friendship will help him (Charlie) come out of his emotional abyss and eventually help him out of his grief.

This one will certainly make you cry especially the part where Charlie started to talk to Alan, describing his daughters one by one and his wife and the poodle.  You could and would feel how hard it is to lose someone and much worse a family.  And the scene from the court was really heart breaking.  I couldn’t believe how inconsiderate, mean and torturing his in-laws and counsel could get.  Just because they’ve thought that he isn’t in pain, that he isn’t grieving for the lost of his family.

Let me quote some lines from the movie:

Charlie Fineman: I don’t need to talk about her or look at pictures… ’cause the truth is, a lot of times, I see her… on the street. I walk down the street, I see her in someone else’s face… clearer than any of the pictures you carry with you. I get that you’re in pain, but you got each other. You got each other! And I’m the one who’s gotta see her and the girls all the time. Everywhere I go! I even see the dog. That’s how fucked up I still am! I look at a German shepherd, I see our goddamn poodle. All right… All right…

Charlie Fineman: I have no one. At least you two have each other.

[Charlie kisses Ginger Timplemen, his mother-in-law, on her cheek and walks away]


The movie will help us realize how hard it is to lose someone that we love.  As one of the taglines of the movie says, “Live every day like it’s the best day of your life”.  We often or a certain point in our lives at least, have neglected and took for granted those people we love and the sad part is we realize those things when they are gone.  Most people tend to focus on things such as material wealth, careers and other stuffs rather than putting their focus on their families.  Yes, it is hard to lose people that we love physically but to some of us, we also lose people through thoughts and actions.  This is what I loved about the movie, it didn’t only discussed Charlie’s loss through the death of his family but this also wants us to be reminded of Alan’s possibility of losing his family from his own doing by not letting his family into his life. 

I strongly believed when Charlie said that he is more worried about Alan than himself.  Because, unlike Charlie, who doesn’t have more of a choice but to let go of his family.  Alan is in the bridge of losing his family and wife through his own actions.  Worse, he is doing it unconsciously.

Like the main tagline says… Let in the unexpected… 

Sometimes, all we have to do is let our loved ones in.  Into our lives and it is how simple it is…    

Here’s the trailer of the movie, I hope you’d get inspired like me and try to watch and learn from this movie before it’s too late for us to do so.