I’ve noticed that I have this tendency to become too comfortable and play safe.  I’m not into experimentation when it comes to food, movies, clothes and music to name a few.  Well, that was actually few years’ back especially if we will talk about food.  Early last year when I started experimenting with clothes and asked my friend Dru to help me pick out clothes.  The next day I came to work everyone noticed and liked it.  Then I believed that reinventing yourself once in a while is a healthy exercise. 

Then lately, I’ve started using the shuffle function on my iPod classic to give myself a room to listen to other songs and for possible discovery of new favorite songs to play.  Fortunately, I was successful with this task.

The song was gloomy and you can hear it from the artist’s voice. (I don’t know why songs about grief or being broken have a special place in my heart maybe because I can relate with the song’s sentiments.  I’m not sure about it but one thing I’m sure of I really find it appealing.)  You can feel his grief and sadness.  It’s Duncan Sheik and the song is So Gone from the album White Limousine which was released last January 26, 2006 in the US.  Unfortunately, his albums weren’t released in the Philippines to date but luckily, I was able to discover Rasputin Records when I visited the US last March 2009.

Anyway, the song was about someone who disappeared from his loved one’s life.  The first verse signifies that like a child he tried to believe that the love will never go away.  That love was magical and it’s something that we can hold on to.  Then somewhere in their relationship he started to think what’s happening between them.  Where is the magic in love that he used to know, he began to look for satisfaction and happiness.  He wondered how many more nights will he have to try to convince himself that everything’s going to be alright then he faltered and he was gone.    

But in the end, he realized the he was wrong… and he is asking her to love him again.  He wants to be back in her life.  He had thought of everything, wrote songs with only one thing to say… which is to forgive him and wish her to stay with him… 

I really find this kind of song very true because I know that humans are not perfect and they commit mistakes and bad decisions (not that I’m encouraging men to commit mistakes and take someone for granted.)  I’m just saying that we should give people a second chance.  For me it’s a song with about someone asking for forgiveness with the willingness to fight for his love, to start all over and take the risks of being together again…forever.

I’m attaching a YouTube link of the song so you could listen to it and hear what I’ve heard. Enjoy!



Is it really possible for us to be forgiving?

Well, I remember when I was in 1st year high school my then favorite teacher said that Christians do the first move.  I can’t actually recall what the topic was about but, I think it is about forgiveness and pride.  (While writing this, I just reminded myself that pride is one of the seven capital sins.)

Since then, I have always tried to be less sensitive and more forgiving.   I have accepted as true that I don’t deserve to be too sensitive since I’m a bit of a big teaser, too.  So, I decided to take the tolerance level a little higher.  I don’t actually get annoyed easily and I don’t get angry that long.  Usually, a tap on the shoulder and a little talk about the situation is okay with me.  Being honest with friends, bridges the gap and it’ll make your relationship closer and longer.

I have live up a principle in life that once I consider you as my friend, I’d tolerate your annoying behavior because I also believe that nobody’s perfect.  I’d be more patient and understanding.  Not only to avoid conflict but because it is the right way.  Some things are meant to be ignored and never to be taken as big deal.

I can even recollect one instance when I let go of a friend’s grave wrong doing because of this so-called belief.  It was fulfilling to be prompted that being humble is a God’s gift.

Others may find it too good to be true.  Others may think that sometimes it is at a fault.  But, believe it or not, I just want to take the higher road.

But I have also breached this belief, too.  As a matter of fact, I was able to treat three people in my life as if they never existed because they’ve hurt me so much.  It wasn’t a very proud moment in my life.  But, there will come a time in our lives when some beliefs will be tested.  And through the goodness of God, I have managed to humble myself and got to forgave them finally.

As a final note, I just want to leave this message.  Always remember this.  You wouldn’t want to subject yourself on one of the capital sins.  Besides, you can’t be too proud to think that you didn’t hurt the other party in one way or another.  Let us learn to forgive and to forget.  Besides these things are controllable, we can always make a choice to do the right thing.

So, is it really possible for us to be forgiving?  My answer is a very resounding yes.  Christians do.

P.S.  This came to my mind when two of my friends at former work had a misunderstanding.  Now the two of them aren’t in speaking terms for the last 4 months.  I drafted this post last December but didn’t had the chance to post it.  I just hope that they’d soon be okay and be friends again.  I just want everyone to be happy.