“The man who never has money enough to pay his debts has too much of something else.”

An IOU (abbreviated from the phrase “I owe you”) is usually an informal document acknowledging debt. An IOU differs from a promissory note in that an IOU is not a negotiable instrument and does not specify repayment terms such as the time of repayment. IOUs usually specify the debtor, the amount owed, and sometimes the creditor. IOUs may be signed or carry distinguishing marks or designs to ensure authenticity.

And sometimes friends extend IOUs based on trust with no need for a document or proof of a promise to pay believing that nothing can come between them when the going gets tough and the value of one’s friendship is at stake.  Not to forget that friends help each other and they just do without any question.

That’s at least how I view and expect things to happen when friends enter into such an agreement.  I’m writing this post because I’m this kind of friend who would always be willing to help a friend in need especially if it’s in a financial aspect.  There’s no point in denying that I’m lucky to have been blessed with what I have but you should also know that it’s not the only reason why I am liquid.  Being and staying liquid requires true discipline and good management of resources.

But unfortunately the tides are not the same these days.  My financial situation is far from comparison a year ago.  It was time for me to make investments that I would benefit from in the future thus making me a less of a helping friend, I suppose, in far as getting involved is concerned.

And true enough I have felt this just recently.  I just hate the fact that I can’t help out someone like I used to do and worse is be put in a very awkward situation.  I guess when I say this I can speak for everyone else being a creditor-friend will never fail to put you in a very compromising situation.  And I think the debtor-friend should be at least sensitive enough to value his promise to pay when the due date comes and never take it against his creditor-friend when he asks for payment.

You know what really pisses me off is when your friend has the audacity to get mad at you and make you feel you’ve been put upon.  It is as if you don’t have the right to demand.  Sometimes it makes me wonder what kind of person would even do that.  There’s a certain level of pride that I could never fathom where they are getting it from.

I just hate the attitude not the actual person.  I know that they are not in a very good situation but it’s not a reason for someone to neglect propriety.  People should always remember that obligation requires a certain action of fulfillment and in this case, payment is the action.  And not to forget, demonstrating gratitude isn’t required but it’s more of the proper decorum that someone should exemplify.  Nothing beats to have a friend who knows how to respect you and never take advantage of your kindness.

As a child I guess everyone was told that lying is a sin. Every culture and religion has a concept of punishment for the things we do wrong. The idea of right and wrong are inculcated at an early age to most or at least that was the environment I grew up with.

As I grew older I became fully aware that lying is a skill, it is actually an art of deceit. And based on observation, it is a trait that most intelligent people have.

But there’s also a way for you to wring the truth but the magnitude depends on how adept the liar is. It’s a skill against a skill.

And yesterday I was hardly hit by this realization about lies.

I just hate people who lie and when they’re caught they’d deny it. Not because of the lies per se but it is because of the undermining of my capacity to judge and ability to understand things. There is certain level of insult that’s not being said there.

This entry doesn’t mean to preach about honesty because I’m not the best person to advocate it. But what I’m telling is, if you happen to tell lies to people you consider a friend, you better be ready to acknowledge your fault when found and apologize to the grieved party once there is an opportunity.

It is a simple lesson on if you don’t tell lies you don’t have to worry about being caught. Just take the full responsibility as I believe in the true sense of justice and mercy.

 

“Sometimes it’s just best to let go of certain friendships, no matter how much it hurts you. Letting go now is better than being ignored for life.”

I don’t normally follow automatically generated quotes on twitter.  I’d only get to see quotes coming from my followers whenever they retweet quotations.  This is how I got to read the quotation stated above.  I also don’t usually retweet but I’ve really felt that this one deserves to be retweeted.  Yes, I’m trying to make a statement when I did that.

A friend once told me that my kindness at times is at a fault.  Some friends tend to take me for granted and I usually won’t mind.  I have always believed that forgiving my friends is like forgiving my siblings.  But here’s my latest realization that maybe it’s about time that I stop letting people treat me like I can always forgive them.  Maybe it is about time that I let other people think twice before they do hurtful things to me.  My forgiveness isn’t actually the issue here because I can always forgive them for the wrong doing but the more pressing issue here is should I trust them again?

I am tired of letting them do this over and over again to me without even realizing that they have to learn how to be apologetic and actually mean it.  I’m just an ordinary person who gets tired.  I think I deserve better than that.  I’ve have weighed everything and this is how it’s going to be from now on. I’m not sure if this is even a worthy cause even if the price would be losing someone I’ve used to love and cared for.

No matter how hard for me to do this, if this is the only way for my friends to understand how our friendship should work then I’m willing to be as cold-hearted as possible.  At first I thought I couldn’t do it but as the days pass by everything seems to be easier than I thought it would be.

Have I become someone else?  Have I also become the friend that I hated?  Have I also acquired the trait that I despised?  Have I also become someone who ignores?

I don’t have the answers today but I hope that someday they’ll understand where I’m coming from and everything will be better for us together or not.

 

I’ve heard about the movie from a friend but I forgot who exactly.  I’m a dog lover and almost everyone knows about it.  I had no qualms and I’d cry my heart out whenever I see dogs die in a movie.

Since, I’ve got nothing to do after watching my back logs of series to watch, I’ve decided to watch Hachiko.

Hachiko is an American adaptation of a Japanese tale about a loyal dog named Hachiko. This very special friend would accompany his master to the train station every day and return each afternoon to greet him after work. Sadly his master departs one day, passes away and never returns to the station. Hachiko faithfully returns to the same spot at the station the very next day, and every day for the next nine years to wait for his beloved master. (Source IMDb)

I chose to watch this movie because I wanted to clear my tear ducts and everyone said that it is a good movie.  But I didn’t realize that this will remind me of my Father and his dog, Tracy.

Tracy has turned 14 years old this year and my father left last September 2009.  She has not been separated with my father this long.  (8 months)  It was a big dilemma for him and he had a hard time.  They have been together every day since 1999 so that’s almost 10 years.  But he doesn’t have any choice; he had to go.  Since then Tracy lost the happiness on her face.  You’d notice that she’s longing for my father.  It’s truly heart breaking.

That’s what I’ve felt when I saw Hachiko and this movie.  You’d see his loyalty to his master.  He’d brace the storm, he’d sacrifice travel every day, and he’d stay up late just to wait for his return.

It reminded me of Tracy’s love to my father.  When he was still here, at night time no one can approach my father except for me.  She’s quick and she doesn’t trust anyone.  She won’t take that risk to lose my father.  Her love and loyalty is something that I don’t even know if I can offer to my own father.

If you’re a dog lover I advise you to watch this movie.  And when you do be prepared, you’d cry a bucket or two.  Hachiko will touch your heart and he’ll teach you about love, compassion and unyielding loyalty.

hachiko's real picture

Here’s the official trailer of the movie. Sob sob sob.




I have read this article in facebook shared by my good friend Trina about her friend’s missing dog. (Please click here to read it) Since, I practically grew up with dogs and I love them so much I thought I was obligated to share this and help her friend find her dog by sharing it online.

Well, this reminded me of the same experience that I had then. Back in 1997, my favorite dog Ewok went missing and I really took it very hard. Ewok isn’t just a regular dog. He is a sweet friend and constant companion, too. I’d always spend time with him in the terrace and I’d talk to him how my day was. Yeah, it may really sound weird but I treat our dogs like humans. I’d sing him a line or two of which I don’t totally know if he really liked it.

And my most favorite thing about him is whenever I go outside the house for a walk to the bakery in the morning he’d go with me. Whenever I leave at around 4 o’clock in the morning he’d walk with me until I get a ride to the terminal and he’d always find his way back home. During high school years, he’d stay outside the house in the afternoon with the anticipation of me going home and he’d welcome me and kiss me like there’s no tomorrow.

Writing this makes me miss him again. It makes me cry and remember the day I came home from the university and found out that he’d been missing for days. During those years, I don’t get to go home everyday since the university is in the metro. It makes me feel if I could only turn back the hands of time, I’d probably say my last good bye to him.

We’ve lost a lot of dogs and it ain’t a funny feeling to be subjected to such a situation. When you’d get to see your dog ailing from sickness, it’d make you do all of the things to save him. You’d give your best shot to take care of him. And that’s what I’ve lost when Ewok went missing. I didn’t only lose a pet and a friend but I’ve also lost the chance to make him feel how I truly love and appreciate him. Destiny robbed me the chance to hug him all tight and say my little prayers before he go to heaven. All those chance lost… gone.

So to Ewok, wherever you are, I just want you to know how thankful I am for coming into our family’s life and into mine. I’d forever be grateful for all the times that you’d listen to me, for the times that you’d walk with me, guiding and protecting me from harm. Don’t worry I don’t need to be protected anymore, I’m all grown up now. You just enjoy your stay there and we’d see each other soon. Thank you again for a life well spent.