In life one has to endure the “If only and what could have been”, it is safe to say that it’s more of innate and everyone gets to experience this at least once in his life.  But as you mature, you try to limit having these kinds of questions or should I say we should at least limit the recurrence of having these questions. 

Well, at least for me that’s one thing that I’ve realized.  We only get to live our lives once and we owe it to ourselves to make it a fun and tolerable ride at the very least.  Having said that I also believe that getting a lesser number of if only and what could have been is indirectly proportional to the rate of happiness we’d get. 

As what I’ve learned from a Management Study subject, the higher the risk, the greater return we’d get.  Taking the risks in life is tantamount to answering and avoiding the “if only and what could have been”.

But sad to say having these questions are more often real, existing and highly unavoidable.  I guess having these questions is human nature and not all of these questions are unhealthy and should be avoided.

And what better example I could give you is having the “what should have been”.  Have you ever experienced having made up your own alternate ending to a movie that you’ve watched?  There are certain movies that left you hanging thus the need to interpret and put your own end to what had happened.  If you don’t then you’re missing a good brain exercise.  And the best example that I can think of right now is the movie Inception.  I loved the movie but I don’t think I’ve understood it at all.  It was too brainy and my brain cells were left dead after watching the movie.  So after all the analysis, thinking and discussion more questions popped rather than getting answers.  Then just recently, I think this video has saved me, “How Inception Should Have Ended”

After watching this video, I’ve realized that I’m really a fan of light-thinking, enjoying-the-moment and let’s-try-not-to-be-too-serious-it’s-just-a-movie-anyway.  I think I have bigger problems to deal with and too much analyzing about a movie is just a waste of time.  So needless to say, I’ve watched at least five of HISHE.com or “How It Should Have Ended” videos to lighten up my mood and enjoy the long week end.  So, I’m sharing some of their videos that I’ve liked and you can also check it from their website. (Click here

Empire Strikes Back

 

Episode IV

Twilight

Saw

Hope these videos would remind you that the main purpose of watching movies is to get entertained.  Let’s leave the analysis to the critics and let’s invest our time of thinking to serious matters like on how to solve world peace and hunger.  Just kidding! Always remember, “Joyfulness keeps the heart and face young. A good laugh makes us better friends with ourselves and everybody around us.” Just chill, relax and try to have a good time not only when you watch a movie but also when you deal with life.

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Today I woke up with one of the best feeling, I really felt happy and I didn’t know where it is coming from.  It was very positive and I didn’t take the chance to lose it.  I immediately grabbed my towel went to the bathroom, fixed my hair and brushed my teeth.  Put on my running shoes and attire.  Ran for an hour, loved the morning breeze and was so happy to see the morning sun.  Drank two cups of brewed coffee and ate a hearty breakfast.

This has to be the good life.  I have nothing to complain about.  I was just contented, satisfied and happy.  Got to talk to my parents and shared stories and checked up on them.

I just hope that every day is as happy as today and I’d try to keep it that way and I know I can.

From today, I’ll just try to pick as much positive things in life and forget about ranting and whining.  I know that it is hard to do but like what I’ve said, I’d keep the positivity handy.  Besides, I’ve got nothing but good things to be happy about.

I’m healthy, I’m well loved, I can buy things that I want, I have work, I have very supportive and amazing friends and lastly, I’m perfectly happy with my life, where I am now and what I’m doing.

I just love this day.  I’m ending my post by sharing to everyone this happy post and One Republic’s song, Good Life.  Let’s all be thankful for all the good things in our lives.  Remember, happiness is a choice!

 

 


Series of unfortunate events happened last week.  I’m not even sure if what I’m feeling right now is numbness or maybe I’m still tired that’s why I can’t feel nothing but numbness.  Some say I did a pretty good job.  I’m acting fine right now and I’m surprising myself.  Is this a sign of maturity or have I just woke up from my illusions and bumped into reality?

Okay, I know you’re wondering what I am talking about.  Here’s what happened, let’s say I’m about to decide in a month’s time.  Well, actually I really planned to weigh things after my birthday.  It’s not actually an ultimatum because I don’t believe in one.  But, because a trip is planned on that week and that will be a test of where we are.  That’s the plan. That was supposed to be the plan.

Yeah I know you might be wondering can this be planned.  Well, I’m not really even sure what I was thinking that time.  But being me, I love planning so I just find myself doing that.  Then week 1 of February happened.  Monday was pretty odd and it got worse the next day.  Wednesday was pretty fine until Friday.  The first few days were all his fault but the last three days were mine.  When I heard someone telling me I sounded tired then I’ve realized that I am.

Then came Friday night as I was packing up my things for the trip with my mind busy on the final itinerary, last minute research and exchanges with friends.  Until someone asked my opinion regarding something that I can truly relate.  It is as if I am talking to myself telling that person what to do.  Then the birth of the realization came.

It is always easier said than done.  Why am I forcing someone to do something that I myself can’t do?  Just find myself so unfair and can’t even walk the talk.  I’ve got hit harder when someone told me that people just do that because they don’t want to not because they can’t.

The impulse was too quick and I texted him if we can talk when I get back.  He said about what and why.  Then, I’ve just realized that it was unfair to some extent for both of us.  Plus, I don’t want to go on vacation with that having in my mind so I dropped the news.

I’m moving on.  It’s time for me to accept the harsh reality with the promise of everything’s going to be alright.  We haven’t seen each other yet but we still do communicate like good friends.  So again I’m doing fine.  I’m not saying this because I’m in denial but because I am.

So I guess I just turned a year older a little early this year.  I wasn’t supposed to get older until next month but I think I just did.

Anyway I’m sharing this James Morrison song entitled “The Pieces Don’t Fit Anymore”.  This song made me realize a lot of things.  Good things.  As what my top ten entry says earlier, “I promised myself that I’d never stop believing in love and I’ll never get tired of taking risks” I think this is what defines me.  There’s gotta be more than life than temporary happiness.

I’ve been twisting and turning,
In a space that’s too small.
I’ve been drawing the line and watching it fall,
You’ve been closing me in, closing the space in my heart.
Watching us fading and watching it all fall apart.

Chorus
Well I can’t explain why it’s not enough, Cause I gave it all to you.
And if you leave me now, oh just leave me now.
It’s the better thing to do,
It’s time to surrender,
It’s been to long pretending.
Theres no use in trying,
When the pieces don’t fit anymore, Pieces don’t fit here anymore.

You pulled me under,
If I had to give in.
Such a beautiful myth,
That’s breaking my skin.
Well I’ll hide all the bruises,
I’ll hide all the damage that’s done.
But I show how I’m feeling until all the feeling has gone.

(Chorus)

Ooh don’t missunderstand,
How I feel.
Cause I’ve tried, yes I’ve tried.
But still I don’t know why, no I don’t know why.
III dont know why…… whyyyyyyyy!

(Chorus)

“There’s a thin line between politeness and being plastic.” 

 

I came up with these lines as my status update at Facebook last Thursday night to match my friend’s status update.  Until I realize how perfect these lines are.  Most of the time, people who don’t know me and those who easily passes judgement on people have the tendency to think that I am plastic.  Whereas, all I only want is world peace.

 

Is it hard for people to believe that you just want peace and serenity and nothing but.  You know, I’m a no saint but I just want things in order.  If you don’t want anything around you for me the best way is to shut up and stop spreading negativity around you.  Life is unfair and things don’t always go your way.  You just have to accept that fact.

 

Last week, someone accused me of being plastic or let’s say that it was just a joke.  But we also know that jokes are half meant.  I am just a little pissed.  I just can’t believe that time and again, I am being accused of being plastic just because I don’t want to be sarcastic. 

 

I am not insecure because I know what I am doing is just right.  I’m just staying positive and spreading harmony around me.  I just hope that all the negativity that surrounds me right now will go away soon.  Perhaps, I should also pray for that tonight.

 

I just feel so misunderstood again.  But what can I do, I’ve just typed a little too early, Life’s unfair and I just have to deal with it!

Life

I love the movie “Life or Something Like it” not because I am an Angelina Jolie fan.  I loved it because of the lesson and message of the story. 

Anyway here’s my story, I have a different view about death per se. Dying for me is inevitable and since it is something we all end up with, I can say I am not afraid of it. That is setting aside the cause of death because it is entirely a different subject and another issue to discuss. What normal person would like to die in a tragic way like accidents or being murdered?

When I saw the movie this is what I’ve learned. Well, technically I didn’t learn it from the movie. It is just more of validating what I have always believed in.  Life for me is something that we should enjoy.  It’s not about careers, getting famous, or being rich.  It’s about living your life to the fullest.  Being happy and contented with what you have and make the most out of it.

Most of us, we tend to be dissatisfied with what we have.  We start to compare ourselves with others. We find happiness when we are ahead of someone else and consequently, we find miseries when we are behind someone.  There’s no satisfying our hunger for power, material wealth and fame neglecting more often than not the true essence of life.

I came from a middle class family and this is what I have learned from my family and parents.  It’s not the material wealth that can give us the happiness in the world.  It’s not becoming famous or overpowering a pile of men.  It is the love of our family.  It is where the true happiness and contentment comes from.

So you might be thinking why did I start with death and life?  Simply because when we are happy and when we are faced with the 5 stages of death (Denial, Anger, Fear, Depression and Acceptance) you’d passed by the 4 stages because it will be easier for you to accept everything.  If we just live our life while we are alive then we don’t need to pass through every stage of death, we’d directly go straight to the last stage with no regrets.

Most of the time, our outlook and beliefs have a great command of what kind of life we have. Life is what we make it.  We decide on what our lives will become.  Hope I have imparted the lesson of the movie as what the writers have intended it to be.

Here’s a YouTube link of the trailer of the movie.  Enjoy!