I signed up on Twitter last 2009 and I’ve fell in love with it since then.  The micro-blogging idea was genius.  I love the challenge of coming up with something under the limit of 140 characters.  In my case it is silly, funny or even bitchy.  And what I really loved with twitter are some of the followers who appreciate your thoughts by retweeting what you have tweeted.  It is like being appreciated or getting an approval or agreement on something you want the whole universe to know.

But lately, since I’m the type of person who would try to do a follow back as sometimes this is more of a social obligation and responsibility neglecting the fact that I should just follow a person because I’m interested in what they have to say.  But in my defense, how would I know that unless I try following back?  So I just try to evaluate my timeline on a regular basis.  Yes don’t be surprised I can be that courteous but only up to a certain extent and time.

I just find it a little bit weird when people take it against you when you unfollow them.  Sometimes, I just want to tell them “make your tweets interesting then people would follow you back! And seriously I’ve got enough drama in my life and I don’t need your crap!”  Twitter is not for the faint-hearted you must know that.  A lot of bitches and stupid idiots are out there to annoy you so be wary.

So with this, I began to think maybe I can come up with helpful tips to twitter users that will benefit both the new ones and the old ones. Well, twitter is a user-driven platform so I guess my opinion is as good as anyone’s out there.

  1. Be social.  Twitter was meant to promote exchanges between users.  If you get a mention from someone you don’t know or don’t want to talk to, just ignore them.  It is expected to happen since twitter is for everyone.  Don’t be surprised when someone reacts to your tweet.  If you don’t want to get them just go up to the mountains and be a monk.
  2. My second tip reminds me of this first tip.  Be courteous.  If you don’t like what you read from your follower just don’t mind them.  Ignore or at least be gracious.
  3. Grammar.  I know that I commit grammar mistakes, too but don’t make it a habit.  Besides, you can always use our own language especially if you’re not good with the foreign language.  Save us from more harm, please start using our own.
  4. Have a sense of humor.  For God’s sake, it’s a sign of intelligence.  I personally had an experience with this.  Believe me there are users who don’t even know what humor is.
  5. RT means retweet.  It is used when you find the need to share someone’s tweet because you find it really important.  And oh please don’t retweet your own tweets, it is so pathetic.  And avoid using RT to reply when in fact you can just “quote tweet” it.  It’s not “reply tweet” it is retweet you idiot!
  6. Refrain from too much drama and negativity.  You can rant for a time and have your frustrations vent out but up to certain extent only.  If you have too much pain to let go of maybe you should find a friend to talk to or even see a psychiatrist. 
  7. This is a personal favorite.  Hold back the urge to tweet too much err, flooding your followers’ timelines.  If you have a lot of thoughts, blog about it then you can always share the link to your followers.  Less is more, believe me!

Again, these are just my tips.  At least if you want to get my attention and you care too much about NOT annoying me then you can just follow these tips.  I know that there’s someone not going to agree with these but I know at least there’ll be someone who is going to agree with at least one of them.

Before I end up this post, there’s another thing that’s amusing me lately.  People who are proud and happy for being twitter jailed.  I just don’t get it really.  Sometimes, I just want to tell them, “Don’t you find yourself annoying enough and you have to wait for a validation to know that?”

I guess this is just me and the signs of aging and for your information just recently I had to unfollow users who have been annoying me and flooding my timeline.  I was able to remove 160 from my following list because I just want it simple, for my timeline to be happy, bitchy and of course witty.

Just remember this, I follow this rule:  Following you on Twitter doesn’t make us friends so if I have unfollowed you, it doesn’t mean we’re not friends. It is just that I’m not a fan of your thoughts and I don’t find it interesting.  Again, twitter is not for the faint-hearted if you can’t deal with you might as well get out of it.

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I have been on twitter since April 16th of last year that’s according to www.dabr.co.uk.  It’s the twitter application I use in the office since the actual application is blocked in our company.  According to this application I tweet about 69.1 tweets per day.  That’s me and what I have to say, right?  You see, I grew up in a family who is very opinionated.  My dad encouraged us to reason and voice out our opinions in a very early age.  He trained us to respect others opinions and what they have to say.

I have always believed that true intelligence can be measured not by how much you have to say but with how much you have listened.  I’m talkative and everyone knows that but only true friends know that I listen more than I talk.  This might actually surprise you but that’s the truth.

Anyway, I am writing this post because I want to talk about my views about twitter and why I am fond of it and how it can actually make and break a friendship.

When I registered to twitter I didn’t expect that I’d get followers and that they’d actually find my random thoughts worth reading thus the need for them to follow me.  And as a golden rule that I’ve set to myself is that I’d follow everyone back just as long as they can keep me entertained.  And I have believed that same principle should also apply to me.  So if ever I get unfollowed I don’t actually mind at all.  It is their prerogative and I respect that.

One more thing that I didn’t expect is to get followers and making few of them as my friends.  Not just friends but good friends.

It is a platform where you can meet people whom you think is interesting enough and before you know it you are starting to build friendship with them.  But don’t be fooled by it, it can only start one but not actually make one.  Virtual friends can never be compared with real ones.  Trust should always be present in such a relationship.

This really surprised me; I have never imagined hurting someone by my tweets.  Well, I know that words can really hurt. But I’m not the kind of person who would do it on twitter just to get other’s attention.  If I have any problems with someone I’d totally tell it to them directly.  That’s how I want my followers know about me.  When I tweet I just say random fucking ideas and thoughts.  I don’t go there to rant about someone; I just don’t see the point especially if it’s someone who’s following me back.   I’m the kind of person who would save the followers from garbage tweets.

Yes I have mentioned that twitter can actually make your followers become your friends but it can also make them your enemies which shouldn’t be the case.  Twitter can be used as a social networking site but the operative word is “can be used”.  It shouldn’t be made as one.  Twitter should always remain as a facility to dump your fucking random ideas and thoughts and having followers dig in to that.  There’s nothing more and nothing less.  Respect should always be put when you are on twitter.  If you don’t want what you’re seeing, there’s the unfollow button.  If they don’t want to follow you back it’s their prerogative.  Friends may not also follow and agree on your thoughts and idea and that’s how it works.  So if you are having problems with trust and respect I don’t think twitter is for you.

This is really weird for me to talk about but it might help people who aren’t on twitter yet.  Here’s some etiquette that I actually try to follow but I’m at times on epic fail because I’m not good with rules myself. Anyway, hope this can be useful.

  • It’s okay to follow people you don’t know on Twitter. They can choose whether or not to follow you back.
  • It’s okay to unfollow people on Twitter. Unfollowing doesn’t automatically mean “I don’t like you.” There are many other reasons.
  • It’s okay to @reply someone a question or comment vs. direct message, especially if it’s an idea where others might weigh in or add a perspective.
  • It’s better to direct message someone if you’re making 1:1 plans or having a very focused, personal conversation.

These are just simple rules but I still think the biggest rule that you should know is how to respect other’s opinion and prerogative.

Twitter is a free social networking and micro-blogging service that enables its users to send and read messages known as tweets. Tweets are text-based posts of up to 140 characters displayed on the author’s profile page and delivered to the author’s subscribers who are known as followers. Senders can restrict delivery to those in their circle of friends or, by default, allow open access. Users can send and receive tweets via the Twitter website, Short Message Service (SMS) or external applications. (Information lifted fromwikipedia)

 

Sometime last week I asked myself why I have joined twitter.  Basically, I just got an invite from a fellow rusher and my favorite radio show is using it.  I believe if I’m not mistaken, it took me awhile before joining.  One of the reasons is usually social networking sites are blocked in the office but Twitter isn’t.  So, I’ve told myself to join anyway, and I believe it’ll be useful in the near future since I have plans on May 2010.

But this isn’t the exact reason why I’m posting this but it has something to do with a certain tweet.

I have always known that when I’m angry I can say the meanest and hardest words you could imagine that I can utter.  That’s why whenever I am mad; I try to control myself before I’d do something that can really hurt someone.  I’m good in that way, but not all really knows it.  Only good friends do know it.  So, you’d often see me just smiling around and pretend that it’s okay even if I have to be the one to suffer from it.  It’s part of my commitment to world peace.  I know, it is unbelievable, but that’s how matured I am.

 

So going back to the story, last week two straight days, I was being challenged and I tried to keep calm about it the whole time.  As usual, I’d keep my feelings inside, act as if nothing’s happening.  I also have this power to ignore people especially if I don’t like them.  I know how to choose my battle and I don’t give up easily.  Rest assured on that, just pick the time and place, if you want a good fight, I’ll give it to you.  Sounds ironic, isn’t it?  But what can I do, I can’t let others just trample my right to silence and peace, right?

Anyway, I’ve tweet-ed this message, “Thing that you should know about me… I am someone who’s least likely to get mad at anyone… simple lang yan kung ayaw mo sa akin same here.”  Since it is limited to 140 characters it came out that way but it was supposed to be longer.  To elaborate that you can visit this post (click here) that I’ve made last 2006 when I was pissed off big time by someone I’ve loved.

Then after sending that tweet, I’ve got a message from someone totally unexpected and unwanted. 

You see, twitter is meant to be used by anyone.  Rule:  If the message isn’t directed to you and you feel a little guilty, I suggest you just shut the fuck up and keep your mouth I mean fingers away from disturbing someone.

That time was a cherry on top of the moment for me because honestly when I tweet-ed that I didn’t mean to hurt someone’s guilty ego.  Like what Terry from True Blood said, “Guilt is a useless emotion!”

It makes us paranoid and it is totally not cool.  Plus, keep in mind that the world doesn’t revolve on you alone.  With this, I want you to listen to this song!

Anyway as a last message, I have always believed this, “Only time will determine when and how you’re going to move on. Sure, it might not be right away like you want it to be but eventually one day you’ll wake up and realize that somewhere along the way that piercing feeling you’ve always felt inside your chest faded and went away while you were too busy living life to notice. ”

With what you’ve done to me lately, I’m singing Kelly Clarkson’s Since You’ve Been Gone… I’m so moving on… thank you for being such a jerk!

And here’s another one good song!  Enjoy!

 

*** Disclaimer:  I’ve suspended this post for about 4 hours today and lifted it when I’ve finally made this disclaimer.  This post was made during the time that I was hurt and in pain.  This rant was just good for that day.  But, unfortunately I’ve hurt someone in the process and I’m truly sorry for that.  It’s just that I felt I owe it to myself to post this even if I’ve felt a little better after.  My posts are always true, honest and to some extent hurtful but what can I do, I can’t shut up!  And I know I have to stand for what I’ve said and pay for the possible consequence it may have.