I signed up on Twitter last 2009 and I’ve fell in love with it since then.  The micro-blogging idea was genius.  I love the challenge of coming up with something under the limit of 140 characters.  In my case it is silly, funny or even bitchy.  And what I really loved with twitter are some of the followers who appreciate your thoughts by retweeting what you have tweeted.  It is like being appreciated or getting an approval or agreement on something you want the whole universe to know.

But lately, since I’m the type of person who would try to do a follow back as sometimes this is more of a social obligation and responsibility neglecting the fact that I should just follow a person because I’m interested in what they have to say.  But in my defense, how would I know that unless I try following back?  So I just try to evaluate my timeline on a regular basis.  Yes don’t be surprised I can be that courteous but only up to a certain extent and time.

I just find it a little bit weird when people take it against you when you unfollow them.  Sometimes, I just want to tell them “make your tweets interesting then people would follow you back! And seriously I’ve got enough drama in my life and I don’t need your crap!”  Twitter is not for the faint-hearted you must know that.  A lot of bitches and stupid idiots are out there to annoy you so be wary.

So with this, I began to think maybe I can come up with helpful tips to twitter users that will benefit both the new ones and the old ones. Well, twitter is a user-driven platform so I guess my opinion is as good as anyone’s out there.

  1. Be social.  Twitter was meant to promote exchanges between users.  If you get a mention from someone you don’t know or don’t want to talk to, just ignore them.  It is expected to happen since twitter is for everyone.  Don’t be surprised when someone reacts to your tweet.  If you don’t want to get them just go up to the mountains and be a monk.
  2. My second tip reminds me of this first tip.  Be courteous.  If you don’t like what you read from your follower just don’t mind them.  Ignore or at least be gracious.
  3. Grammar.  I know that I commit grammar mistakes, too but don’t make it a habit.  Besides, you can always use our own language especially if you’re not good with the foreign language.  Save us from more harm, please start using our own.
  4. Have a sense of humor.  For God’s sake, it’s a sign of intelligence.  I personally had an experience with this.  Believe me there are users who don’t even know what humor is.
  5. RT means retweet.  It is used when you find the need to share someone’s tweet because you find it really important.  And oh please don’t retweet your own tweets, it is so pathetic.  And avoid using RT to reply when in fact you can just “quote tweet” it.  It’s not “reply tweet” it is retweet you idiot!
  6. Refrain from too much drama and negativity.  You can rant for a time and have your frustrations vent out but up to certain extent only.  If you have too much pain to let go of maybe you should find a friend to talk to or even see a psychiatrist. 
  7. This is a personal favorite.  Hold back the urge to tweet too much err, flooding your followers’ timelines.  If you have a lot of thoughts, blog about it then you can always share the link to your followers.  Less is more, believe me!

Again, these are just my tips.  At least if you want to get my attention and you care too much about NOT annoying me then you can just follow these tips.  I know that there’s someone not going to agree with these but I know at least there’ll be someone who is going to agree with at least one of them.

Before I end up this post, there’s another thing that’s amusing me lately.  People who are proud and happy for being twitter jailed.  I just don’t get it really.  Sometimes, I just want to tell them, “Don’t you find yourself annoying enough and you have to wait for a validation to know that?”

I guess this is just me and the signs of aging and for your information just recently I had to unfollow users who have been annoying me and flooding my timeline.  I was able to remove 160 from my following list because I just want it simple, for my timeline to be happy, bitchy and of course witty.

Just remember this, I follow this rule:  Following you on Twitter doesn’t make us friends so if I have unfollowed you, it doesn’t mean we’re not friends. It is just that I’m not a fan of your thoughts and I don’t find it interesting.  Again, twitter is not for the faint-hearted if you can’t deal with you might as well get out of it.

 

in·tim·i·date (n-tm-dt)

tr.v. in·tim·i·dat·ed, in·tim·i·dat·ing, in·tim·i·dates

1. To make timid; fill with fear: frighten

2. To coerce or inhibit by or as if by threats.

Noun. intimidation – the act of intimidating a weaker person to make them do something


I just can’t believe that some of my “friends” think that I’m intimidating.  Read on and find out why I think so.

I had short text message exchanges with a friend (Ron) last Saturday morning while I’m on my way home to our province.  We’ve met together with other friends for dinner Friday night and he mentioned about my strong personality.  The actual word he used was “intimidated”, he’s saying that it’s one of the reasons why people I had misunderstandings with are having a hard time to approach me because they are intimidated.

And this is what I have to say, “If your friends are intimidated by you then maybe they don’t know you well for you to even call them your friends.”

I tweeted this and made it as my Facebook status yesterday because I strongly believe that friends shouldn’t be intimidated by each other.  If they are your real friends, they’d know you in and out.  I’m having a hard time believing that feeling fear towards one of your friends is even remotely possible.

I think the only reason why one friend can be intimidated is there’s an absence of communication.  And we all know that friendships are built on strong foundation of communication and trust.  What I’m trying to say is friends are expected to fight over something and argue about the shallowest thing on earth but when that situation comes they face it together, talk about it and resolve the difference.

This is where the question arises why should you be intimidated?  It only means that you’re not really friends with them because they can’t talk to you about the truth or issues that they have with you.  I just don’t believe that there should be a barrier with a relationship like friendship.  I don’t believe that there’s a stronger friend and a weaker friend.

I know that I can be blunt and straight forward but that’s what and how I expect from my friends, too.  How can you watch each other’s back if you can’t be honest and true with each other?  Besides, one has to accept and bear in one’s mind that friends have the best interest to bring out the best in you.

I’m just a believer of trust and honesty.  I treat my friends like my siblings and if I need to point out something to correct them even if it would cost us our friendship then let it be.  I would expect my friends to be that way, too.  And if there would really be a friendship ending then maybe there wasn’t really a friendship to start with.

My parting words are, “I don’t get intimidated by my friends because I’m true to them and I don’t have to pretend someone that I’m not and I know I can always tell them anything without thinking that they’d take it against me.” and they could expect that from me as well.

 

Last Thursday Chico and Delamar announced on air that there will be a big revelation in the show on Friday 9 am.  This announcement got everyone thinking what kind of news it would be.  Then after few hours Delle started retweeting listeners’ speculation and I had to give in and join in the bandwagon.

Friday morning, an hour before the big revelation, Chico mentioned that he had posted about it on his blog (click here for the link)

And I was surprised that one of the clues Chico mentioned bearing keywords was my tweet.  Upon reading that I immediately tweeted them because I couldn’t imagine enduring weeks of no morning rush.  Just thinking about it is killing me already.

Then, here’s the funny thing, the hype of the listener’s speculation and the actual ‘big reveal’ had made it to the news.  And my tweet was mentioned since Chico made it as clue for the ‘big reveal’.  I wasn’t supposed to make it as a big deal but my twitter timeline went crazy for an hour.  I really find it funny and decided to make this as a filler post.  It’s like having a 10-second of fame on national television.  Here are screenshots of my timeline during the hype so you’d see how crazy and funny my twitter followers are.  I’ve also included the link of the news.  (Click it here)


 

Congeniality is a noun for the word congenial which is an adjective that means “Of a pleasant disposition; friendly and sociable”

I can’t remember if it was after the movie Miss Congeniality was shown here or it was even before that when my good friends in college used to give me that title from Sandra Bullock’s movie.  I’ve studied from one of the biggest universities and I’m actually surprised that the saying “it’s a small world” actually fits me perfectly.  Wherever I go I’d always find someone I know literally.  Unusual and usual places, airports, beach, I even had one experience when I traveled to Mindanao and I saw acquaintances in three different instances.

And today as I was writing this post, I got the idea because there’s this Twitter BFFs going around and I have been tagged 4 times today.  One reason I know why I’m being tagged because I tweet a lot but that doesn’t automatically mean you’d be friends with every follower you have, right?  I think I’m just lucky that most of my followers have been my friends.  

In the office my boss and peers have also joined the bandwagon in calling me as Mr. Popularity/Congeniality.  I’m approached by most and I can totally be bitchy, get away with it and they’d still love me.

Lanie, one of my college friends, once said that she wouldn’t pick a fight against me ever again because regardless whoever started the fight everyone would still be on my side.  I don’t remember who said this but one reason for this is because they say I’m least likely to start a fight.  Or maybe I’m just really charming and lovable? Ha-ha! Fine I won’t push my luck too much.  

Anyway, I still just couldn’t believe it that I’m appreciated this much.  Not that I’m trying to be humble but I’m really surprised that people like me because I’m honest, crazy, a twitter addict and of course not to forget bitchy.  This post is made to thank everyone who likes me as a peer, as a rusher, as a Twitter BFF and as a friend.  Thank you for making my everyday brighter.

Ending this post with a realization that even bitches can be congenial!  


I have been on twitter since April 16th of last year that’s according to www.dabr.co.uk.  It’s the twitter application I use in the office since the actual application is blocked in our company.  According to this application I tweet about 69.1 tweets per day.  That’s me and what I have to say, right?  You see, I grew up in a family who is very opinionated.  My dad encouraged us to reason and voice out our opinions in a very early age.  He trained us to respect others opinions and what they have to say.

I have always believed that true intelligence can be measured not by how much you have to say but with how much you have listened.  I’m talkative and everyone knows that but only true friends know that I listen more than I talk.  This might actually surprise you but that’s the truth.

Anyway, I am writing this post because I want to talk about my views about twitter and why I am fond of it and how it can actually make and break a friendship.

When I registered to twitter I didn’t expect that I’d get followers and that they’d actually find my random thoughts worth reading thus the need for them to follow me.  And as a golden rule that I’ve set to myself is that I’d follow everyone back just as long as they can keep me entertained.  And I have believed that same principle should also apply to me.  So if ever I get unfollowed I don’t actually mind at all.  It is their prerogative and I respect that.

One more thing that I didn’t expect is to get followers and making few of them as my friends.  Not just friends but good friends.

It is a platform where you can meet people whom you think is interesting enough and before you know it you are starting to build friendship with them.  But don’t be fooled by it, it can only start one but not actually make one.  Virtual friends can never be compared with real ones.  Trust should always be present in such a relationship.

This really surprised me; I have never imagined hurting someone by my tweets.  Well, I know that words can really hurt. But I’m not the kind of person who would do it on twitter just to get other’s attention.  If I have any problems with someone I’d totally tell it to them directly.  That’s how I want my followers know about me.  When I tweet I just say random fucking ideas and thoughts.  I don’t go there to rant about someone; I just don’t see the point especially if it’s someone who’s following me back.   I’m the kind of person who would save the followers from garbage tweets.

Yes I have mentioned that twitter can actually make your followers become your friends but it can also make them your enemies which shouldn’t be the case.  Twitter can be used as a social networking site but the operative word is “can be used”.  It shouldn’t be made as one.  Twitter should always remain as a facility to dump your fucking random ideas and thoughts and having followers dig in to that.  There’s nothing more and nothing less.  Respect should always be put when you are on twitter.  If you don’t want what you’re seeing, there’s the unfollow button.  If they don’t want to follow you back it’s their prerogative.  Friends may not also follow and agree on your thoughts and idea and that’s how it works.  So if you are having problems with trust and respect I don’t think twitter is for you.

This is really weird for me to talk about but it might help people who aren’t on twitter yet.  Here’s some etiquette that I actually try to follow but I’m at times on epic fail because I’m not good with rules myself. Anyway, hope this can be useful.

  • It’s okay to follow people you don’t know on Twitter. They can choose whether or not to follow you back.
  • It’s okay to unfollow people on Twitter. Unfollowing doesn’t automatically mean “I don’t like you.” There are many other reasons.
  • It’s okay to @reply someone a question or comment vs. direct message, especially if it’s an idea where others might weigh in or add a perspective.
  • It’s better to direct message someone if you’re making 1:1 plans or having a very focused, personal conversation.

These are just simple rules but I still think the biggest rule that you should know is how to respect other’s opinion and prerogative.

I just remembered that I’m using Twitter for a year already.  I was supposed to make a big deal out of it but unfortunately or should I say fortunately I totally forgot about it.  That’s how busy I am last Friday with work.

Anyway, Twitter has been blocked in the office and I still managed to tweet by using these two reliable sources Dabr (http://dabr.co.uk/) and Twittergadget (http://www.twittergadget.com/).  I like Dabr more because it has a reply all button and it is easier to use compared with Twittergadget.  I just use the latter whenever I get error messages with the former.  To give you an idea of the two applications just click on the link provided above.


But for me still the best Twitter application is the Tweetdeck, unfortunately since our office is on active directory we are prohibited to install programs without the administrator’s approval.

Tweetdeck


This is the reason why I find Tweetdeck as the best application.  You can customize your Twitter experience with columns, groups, saved searches and automatic updates helping you to effortlessly stay updated with the people and topics you care about. See what people are saying about you and join the conversation by tweeting, sharing photos, videos or links directly from Tweetdeck.

You can also connect with your Facebook friends directly from Tweetdeck by updating your status, posting photos or videos, commenting, liking and groups your friends to make it easier to follow only those you really want to see what your friends are doing by creating columns for each of your groups of friends.

So, if you’re not on Twitter yet you better check it out because twitter helped me find good, cool and new friends that I’ll forever be grateful for.

I was listening to TMR pod cast and Delle mentioned that there’s a way for us to find out what Kind of Twitter User we are… so I’m sharing the link… http://yahoo.knowyourmojo.com/

And here’s my result!


You are: BFF – Our proven scientific method has determined that you are a BFF (Best Friend Forever!).  You’re a great person to know and you love responding to people by name.  So if you are excited about what we’re tweeting, we say “Right back @ you!”

And here is the complete list:

Headliner – You’re the star of the Twitter verse, have tons of followers, and have retweets the likes of Ashton Kutcher and Perez Hilton

Crowd Pleaser – You use lots of hash tags and are in on all the hot conversations

Cheerleader – Retweeting is how you roll

B.F.F. – Your volume of @replies makes you everybody’s best bud

Party Animal – With so many followers, you’re the life of the party

Private Eye – Like any good investigator, you’re following a boatload of people

Concierge – You live for links and sending people to the best stuff

Word Whiz – You’re a natural wordsmith and make the most of your 140 characters

Lone Wolf – You’re more of a low-profile type (some might even accuse you of lurking)

Name Dropper – You use lots of @names when you tweet

Matchmaker – You pass along lots of URLs to make sure everyone’s connected

Wall Flower – You don’t tweet much but you’re still in on the party

Novelist – You have a lot to say and tweet with a lot of characters to prove it

Shadow – You follow lots of people like a good shadow would

Scenester – If there’s a hash tag conversation happening, you’re there

Tweethead – Your high number of retweets shows you like to spread the good stuff